Shirley ARBOUR

1939 - 2012  (73 ans)

• Nom	Shirley ARBOUR
  Naissance	6 nov 1939	Renfrew County,,,Ontario,Canada,Pembroke
  Genre	Féminin
  Décès	nov 2012	Ottawa,,,Ontario,Canada,Carleton County
  Inhumation	nov 2012	Quebec,,Outaouais,Quebec,Canada,[St. John The Evangelist Cemetery,Campbell's Bay,Litchfield Twp,Pontiac County,Canada] - Campbells Bay
  _CREA	17 sept 2023
  _FIL	LEGITIMATE_CHILD
  ID personne	I6842	Pierre Harbourgt
  Dernière modif.	16 sept 2023

  
  

  Père	Alexander ARBOUR,   n. 24 août 1905, Renfrew County,,,Ontario,Canada,Point Alexander d. 10 août 1981, Ottawa,,,Ontario,Canada,Carleton County (Âgé de 75 ans)
  Mère	Isabelle Margaret CONNORS,   n. 8 déc 1911, Ontario,,,,Canada,Glen-Nevis,Glengarry County d. 21 août 1986, Gatineau,,Outaouais,Quebec,Canada, (Âgé de 74 ans)
  Mariage	9 nov 1931	Pointe-Claire,,Montréal,Quebec,Canada,
  _CREA	21 août 2024
  _UST	MARRIED
  ID Famille	F504	Feuille familiale  |  Tableau familial

  
  

  Famille	Henry MOUSSEAU,   n. 1934   d. 1992, Campbells Bay,,Outaouais,Quebec,Canada, (Âgé de 58 ans)
  Mariage	19 nov 1955	Campbells Bay,,Outaouais,Quebec,Canada,
  _CREA	21 août 2024
  _UST	MARRIED
  ID Famille	F22203	Feuille familiale  |  Tableau familial
  Dernière modif.	21 août 2024

  
  

• Notes

  From daughter Catherinevia email on 19 Jul 2009: I'm not sure if I told you or not, but I am the primary caregiver of my mother who is terminally ill.Fridays and Saturdays can sometimes be overwhelming as I deal with my housework, her,groceries etc. From Catherine via email on 19 Jul 2009: I asked mom when Aunt Lillian got married butunfortunately my mother's mind is not quite what it usedto be. She was fine earlier in the evening but as the evening wore on she couldn't even remember how Aunt Lillian got to be an Arbour. I willkeep trying. ___ Story from Catherine via email on 19 Aug 2009: My mother's sister owns a cottage on the Quebec side. We used to spend many a summer weekend there . . . that in itself is funny because my mother is terrified of all"nature". She hates bugs, mice, snakes, etc. Anyway we were all at Aunt Irene's cottage, I was about 15 at the time. My mother was having a grand old time. She decided she was going to entertain everyone with hersinging and dancing - night time in the country is dark - very dark. Mymother tripped over a fallen tree and broke a couple of toes. She refuses to go to the hospital because she hasbeen drinking. Monday morningwe are home again and mom calls our family doctor. The doctor has an opening so mom goes. The doctor took some x-rays and tells mom three toes are broken and she puts these little splint thingies on them. She asks my mother how she broke her toes and my mother tells her: Al Cool. The doctor is confused and thinks it's a person. Mom does not clear up thedoctor's confusion. Alcool was a brand of gin (I believe) at the time. Story from Catherine via email on 19 Aug 2009: About 6 years ago my mother decided to change her carpeting. She got a good deal (on the Quebecside) but you had to install it yourself. Mom convinced Rod (my sister's hubby) andI to do it. We picked the following Saturday. Momasked if itwould be okay for Aunt Kay to come over for the weekend. I said yes, because I thought it would keep mom out of our hair as we worked. Rod and I got busy (about 9 am) and ripped outall the old carpeting and scraped away the underlay that had stuck to the hardwood floors. It was hotand nasty work. We worked all day. Rod had to be home for 6 and I toldhim that I could finish up on my own. I justhad the hallway and stairsleading to the basement to do. He left. Mom has been steadilydrinking all day and I kept trying to get her to eat to no avail. At 6 I told her I was taking a supper break and that if she didn't eat I would force feed her. She said she would eat. I went upstairs to eat and came back down an hour later. When Igot in I could tell that she hadn't eaten butshe told me that she had ordered food for her and Aunt Kay from the local pizza place (Fred's). I get busy with the carpeting, about 10 minutes later I see flashing blue lights outside the living roomwindow. ThenIsee two police officers heading to the door. Mom makes it to the doorbefore I do. And she says: "Where's my pizza?" to the officers. The officers asksher what the emergency is just as I'm running to the door. Isay there's no emergencyhow can I help you officer? As my Aunt Kay swings her head around the door and says, don't forget the wings. I push both mom and Aunt Kay out of the way and go out on the verandah with thepolice. The male officer tells me that they got a 911callfrom this address. I tell him that I know for certain that my mother nor my aunt could have made the call becauseI was right there and they were noton the phone. THEN THE LIGHT BULB goes off in my head and I ask them to wait amoment. I go back inandyell down in to the basement where my brother is - surprisehe's drunk. I asked him if he called 911. He says, I don't know but I called somebody and told them we were hungry but it wasn't an emergency yet. I curse and run back outside andI lookedatthe officer and said rather wearily just shoot me and put me out of my misery. The lady officer asks if I'm okay and I explain theentire day and situationto her. She is sympathetic; the male officer - not so much. We don't joke about shooting people. The lady officer speaks to him quietly and he settles down. Of course I realize it was a stupid thing to say I tellhimBUTyou don't live with these nuts-- I do. Anyway the police leave with the warning that if they get another calltheywill haveto arrest someone - I was actually thinking of begging God to let mom or Ricky call again. I go back in and mydarlingmother and aunt ask where the food is.I tell them that neither one of them is the brightest crayon in the box and that that wasthepolice not Fred's delivery. Mom says, well, what didthey want???? I just looked at her and went backto work.When I saw the headlights of another car I was at the door in two seconds flat. It was Fred's. I paid him. They ate. I finishedmy work andwent upstairs. Brendan had been out for a while when he got back I tell him tearfully what has happened. He starts laughing his head off - I could have chokedhim. The next day I go downstairs and mom and Aunt Kay are having theirmorning coffee. Iaskthem if they remember last night - neither one does - I tell them what happened. Mom looksatme and tells me not to make up stories. My brother Ricky looks at me and apologizes. Mom looks at meagain and says, you mean it's true. Ohyes,I say, and guess what you old darlings, next time I won't interfere and I'll let them cart you all away. I always tell people I run an old age home - it's kind of true - my mother and my two brothers who live with her downstairs are allolder than Iam. AND I do take care of them - making sure they have food, clothes etc. ___ From Cathy via email on 11 Dec 2010: Mum is still hanging on. Her weight is now hovering around 80 pounds. I am still working mornings - I gethomearound11:20 am. My brothers have been helping a bit more with housework and meals but I have 100% of the mom's care. My sister is not around much to help. ___ From Cathy via email on 10 Sep2011: My mother's healthdeclined inMarchand Iwas forced (happily) to leave my job and I now stay home and carefor her full-time. Within days of this happening my father-in-law ended up in hospital with 3 broken ribs and a life threatening blood clot -- all of this on top of his Parkinsons. ___ newspaper (ON) -- Saturday 01 Dec 2012 MOUSSEAU, Shirley (née Arbour) Gone to be with the love of her life, the late Henry Mousseau. She willbe sadly missed by her children Ricky, Ronnie,Cathy and Janie. She will be sadly missed by her sons-in-law, Brendan andRod, her grandchildrenAshley, Andrew and Tyler as well as by her great- grandchildren Jake and Sadie. Viewing to be held at the Ringrose Funeral Home in Campbell'sBay, Québec on Friday, November30th, from 2 pm to 5 pm and from7 pmto 9 pm. On Saturday December 1st, the funeral home will open at 10 am followed by the funeral mass which will be held at 11 am at St John the Evangelist church in Campbell's Bay. 29 November2012 So many great memories of thislittlelady. She had a busy busy house with four of her own, but she let me be part of her family too! Great memories...lots of laughs....and always the feeling that you were loved andcared for. I'll miss you Mrs. Mousseau!!! Muchloveand sympathy to everyone who was blessed to know her!!! 1 December 2012 I love you and miss you Nanny. I wouldn't be the woman I am today if itweren't for you. Thank you for being you - a kind and loving woman whogave of herselfasking nothing in return. May youfly with the angels andalways watch over us. You are finally reunited with Poppa! I love you Nanny. You are my sunshine. ~ Ashley, Rob Jake and Sadie, Ottawa, Ontario